By joshua 
TRIBUTE 2 TO HRM ALH DR ADO IBRAHIM OZIANDU CON OF THE BLESSED MEMORY
… STOP DISTURBING YOURSELF ABOUT WHY SOME PEOPLE HATE YOU
By Hon. Bar. Prince A. A. Oziandu
One of the greatest mistakes a person can make in life is to waste precious time and energy trying to understand why some people choose to hate them. The reality is simple: you may never find a complete answer, and even if you do, it may not change anything.
Hatred is an emotional disease rooted in the heart of the hater, not in the victim of hate. It often says more about the hater than the one being hated.
*Why Do People Hate?*
There are countless reasons why people may harbor hatred towards you—some of them logical, others completely irrational.
1. Out of Envy and Jealousy
Some people hate you because you are knowledgeable, intelligent, or wise.
They cannot stand your brilliance, your courage, or the fact that you see what they cannot see.
2. Out of Insecurity
They may hate you because you are beautiful, handsome, or well-dressed.
Your mere presence reminds them of what they lack or wish they had.
3. Out of Social and Economic Differences
Some may hate you because of your wealth, success, or influence.
Others may despise you for your poverty, struggles, or limitations. Ironically, you can be hated both for being rich and for being poor.
4. Out of Differences in Personality
The way you walk, the way you talk, your laughter, your seriousness, or even the way you do things can irritate someone who is already disposed to dislike you.
5. Out of Prejudice Against Weakness
Surprisingly, people may also hate you for your weaknesses or shortcomings.
Some may mock or despise dullness, physical disability, ugliness, poverty, or mistakes.
The Lesson: Hatred Is Not Always About You
Whether you shine or you struggle, whether you succeed or fail, whether you are strong or weak—somebody will always find a reason to dislike you. This proves that the problem is not always who you are, but rather the condition of their heart.
“Perhaps you dislike something and it is good for you; and perhaps you love something and it is bad for you. Allah knows, while you know not.” (Qur’an 2:216)
And Jesus (peace be upon him) also said:
“If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.” (John 15:18)
*What SHould You Do?
1. Do not waste your life seeking approval from everyone.
You will never succeed. Even prophets, saints, and righteous men were hated.
2. Continue doing good.
Your goodness should not be conditioned on people’s reactions.
3. Guard your peace of mind.
When you stop disturbing yourself about the reasons for hate, you free your heart from unnecessary burdens.
4. Leave haters to God.
As the Qur’an says: “Indeed, Allah loves the doers of good.” (Qur’an 2:195). The best way to respond to hate is to rise above it.
Hatred is like a shadow—it follows both the light and the darkness in you. But just as the shadow cannot stop the sun from shining, haters cannot stop your destiny.
So, stop disturbing yourself about why some people hate you. Live your life, fulfill your purpose, and let your success and character silence them better than your words ever will.
Hon Barr. Prince A A Oziandu
Political Activist and Human Rights Advocate